27 Feb Why you need psychotherapy even if you think you don’t
Psychotherapy is not just for people who have “problems.” Psychotherapy is also for people who want to be masters of their emotional universe. It’s is for people who want to be emotional strong-men or emotional ninjas. It’s for people who want to live their passion. It’s for people who don’t want to have to “white-knuckle-it” to do the things they say they want or to keep from doing things they say they don’t want.
Did you know that only 5% of your mind is conscious to you? That’s right, 95% of your mind is working without your conscious knowledge. Think about it. Once you learn to do something, you pretty much do it on “autopilot,” right? Well, the way you think works like that too.
When you were a wee thing, you learned through your relationship with the people who took care of you how to think about yourself and the world. The daily interactions you had with your caregivers left an imprint on your brain. The quality and quantity of the interactions that people had with you and around you between the last trimester before your birth and six years of age gave you repeated information about yourself. Sometimes it was positive and sometimes it was negative.
As you aged, your caregivers tried (or not, which is another blog) to do the job of making you a civilized human being, fit for living in society, and destined to be a successful, independent adult. The way they did that, based on their own way of functioning (which is, remember, 95% unconscious to them), combined with your innate temperament left a lasting impression on you about your worth as a human being.
The fact is, you are in an impossible situation. Being a civilized member of society is at odds with your innate desire to have what you want, when you want it, how you want it, wherever you want it. Parents were themselves taught to deal with this disparity in a way that created negative internal messages for them. Because of this, they unwittingly pass on those same negative messages to you, and they do it despite their best intentions to communicate the exact opposite message. Because of their good intentions, you are convinced to “rationalize away” your feelings of disappointment, frustration, anger, fear, hatred, sadness, etc. In other words, you are coerced, albeit benignly, into containing your feelings and believing that they don’t exist.
But the feelings do exist. They exist in your body, even if you are not aware of them with your conscious mind. This is because energy must either move or be contained, and when you do not express the energy of a feeling, you contain it in your body. So, every unconscious feeling you have locked in your body adds up to keep you from being your best, most powerful, happiest, most easy-going, content self you could possibly be. And if that is happening, (which inevitably it is,) even if you don’t have “problems,” there are things you can learn about yourself and gain from psychotherapy.
If you want to know more about mind/body psychotherapy, or you would like to keep from passing the same negative messages on to your children that you received, you could read my page on bioenergetic therapy, you could listen to a blogtalkradio interview of Bioenergetic analysis expert Dr. Robert Glazer Ph.D., or you could call me. We’ll talk.