Let’s face it, improving your self-confidence is not an easy task. You are going to have to change your brain significantly in order to achieve it.

Changing your brain takes time. It also takes persistence and intense emotional experiences, as well as proximity to someone who will be “installing” the right information and guiding you through the right experiences to help you improve your self-confidence.

Here’s why. Low or no self-confidence comes from years of having information “installed” that led you to believe that your desires and feelings were not legitimate. This brainwashing is usually so good that you don’t even really know it happened. You love your parents, and believe that the way they raised you is the reason you are as successful and the hard working person that you are. And you’re right, parents play a significant role in a person adult self-confidence and awareness – both the good and the bad.

The way in which you’re raised can also be the reason you have low or no self-confidence. (Or the reason you have depression, anxiety or anger problems).

Even if you feel good about your abilities or your achievements, you feel like they’re never enough, or never good enough.

You can’t be yourself, or you don’t like the person you are when you’re with other people.

You can’t be vulnerable and be your “real” self. You gave that up so long time ago you don’t even know you gave it up. All it got you was rejection, shame or humiliation.

You can fake it usually, but inside, you know your truth. You feel that you know that you are not worthy of attention, praise or congratulations. There is something “off” about you.

To change that, you must change your brain. You must have new experiences of acceptance of who-you-are “installed” inside you. You need another person to do that for you. Someone you trust. Someone who shows loving attention and care to you even when you are your “worst.”

Not many experiences exist that provide all the necessary variables in order to change your brain significantly enough to create lasting self-confidence. But one of them is “Bioenergetic Psychoanalysis.”

If you want to learn more about it, send me a message and ask for more information. I’ll send you some excerpts from my book, Emotional Utopia, Stop Searching For Happiness And Start Living It, to give you a better idea of how it works. Then, if you want want to know more, call me. We’ll talk.

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