So you want to get over an addiction, eh? You want to be free from the experience of being enslaved to a habit, a practice, or something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming?
Well, like so many things in life we want to change, the trick to getting over an addiction is to eliminate the emotional power that drives it. Now, of course, if the addiction is a physical one, then you have to detoxify your body first. There are many facilities dedicated to helping you with the process. After that, you’re dealing with a psychological issue, and that’s where I can help you.
In addition to eliminating the emotional power that drives an addiction, you also have to find the beliefs at its foundation. Often these foundational beliefs are “irrational,” and finding them can be hard for a couple of reasons.
- You’re trying to uncover something that your rational brain doesn’t believe, or doesn’t want to believe, exists in the first place.
- Acknowledging that you think some of the things that are driving an addiction behavior can feel frightening and vulnerable.
For instance, it’s hard to admit and feel ok with hating someone you love. It’s hard to admit to and feel ok with wanting to be taken care of. It’s hard to admit and feel ok with the idea that things that happened to you when you were small have an affect on your adult life. But these are the types of thoughts that live in the roots of addiction.
When you can let go of any judgments you have about who you are, what you think, and how your feel, you will be on the road to getting over your addictions. You will not need or want the relief of the addiction to help you cope with the loneliness and isolation you experience as a result of the judgments you point at yourself.
You will be free.
p.s. Find out more about how you can stop doing the thing you say you want to stop and start doing the things you say you want to start in my book Emotional Utopia: Stop Searching For Happiness And Start Living It, available on Amazon.com. You can also get a free copy of the introduction at emotionalutopia.com.