Ever feel like you can’t get what you want out of life?
Do you have ideas and plans, but you can’t follow through? There’s a reason.
You can’t reach for what you want. You can’t risk the feeling of “failure” or “rejection.” Whether you know it or not, you have felt the sting of rejection in the past and you’re not going to let yourself feel it again.
Your past is haunting you. And without finding a way to take the risk to reach for what you want in life, you will always be longing instead of having.
How to get what you want.
To get what you want, you first need to face the fact that you have been been rejected in the past. You have to acknowledge that the people who were most important to you let you down. They ignored or rejected you when you reached for what you wanted. This made you stop reaching. Which keeps you from getting what you want out of life.
It’s not easy to acknowledge that those who are important to you let you down. It feels like a betrayal of people who loved you and took good care of you. It makes you feel like a whiny baby who doesn’t appreciate what you got. It makes you feel guilty and ashamed.
You’re going to have to let that go. You are going to have to be kind to YOU instead of them for a moment. You’re going to have to accept that being angry and disappointed in them does not mean that you don’t appreciate what you got. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love them and know that you wouldn’t be where you are without them.
Practice reaching out.
After that, you need to practice reaching. Literally. Reaching out as if you need something and experiencing the feeling that you are being ignored. You have to face the physical feeling of being rejected, and live through the pain. You have to feel rejection, as an adult who has the emotional resources to face it, and keep moving forward toward your goal.
Practice getting what you want.
Last, you need to muster your energy and grab what you want out of the hands of someone who is keeping it from you.
This can be as simple as pulling a towel out of the hands of an opponent and feeling the thrill of achieving your goal.
Believe it or not, the experience of “taking what you want” by yanking a towel out of someone else’s hand is a right brain “training” experience. You are teaching your body that taking what you want, and putting effort into taking what you want, is OK. That it’s good. Which will change your attitude toward putting energy into grabbing what you want in life.
Think of it like military exercises with wax bullets. Or paintball. You practice the motions of the real scenario without taking the risk of the real scenario. This is the same, and the benefit to you is the same. The “real deal” won’t be quite as scary when it comes around.
It’s okay if you don’t believe what I’m telling you. I wouldn’t either if I hadn’t seen the proof. But if you’re determined to get what you want out of life and haven’t figured out how, call me. We’ll talk and I’ll teach you how.
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