Admittedly, the title is a fanciful. Probably not something a practical person would gravitate toward. But it makes you wonder, doesn’t it? Even if you are practical. What could it possibly mean? Emotional Utopia. Isn’t Utopia a fantasy? It might be. But that depends on your definition of perfection, since Utopia is “an imagined place or state of things in which everything is perfect.”
So let’s look at the definition of “perfect.”
Perfect : having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”
And what is the “perfect” emotional experience?
Obviously, we prefer pleasant emotional experiences, and tend to think of those as the “perfect” ones. But, we’re human, after all. And being “as good as it is possible to be,” for us includes being “bad” sometimes, “weak,” sometimes,“vulnerable” sometimes, “silly,” sometimes. And the list goes on.
Perfection then, for us, means accepting and tolerating the ups and downs of our feelings, and being able to manage them in a way that doesn’t interrupt our overall healthy functioning or our relationships. Not such a tall order, after all, once you learn how to do it.
And that’s the trick, or, “The Dip,” as Seth Godin calls it in a business context. LEARNING. Learning takes time. Effort. Intention. It requires making the commitment to your emotional success your TOP priority.
Is it what you want? Enough to do the work? If so, you CAN achieve Emotional Utopia. And I can show you how. Interested? Call me. We’ll talk.
p.s. If you’d like to preview the book Emotional Utopia, visit EmotionalUtopia.com, where you can download a free copy of the introduction.