When therapy doesn’t work, it’s because you are talking about your feelings or talking about events that happened in the past, you aren’t feeling them. Talking and insight alone have no magical qualities. In order to experience a change in the way you feel in your body, you have to experience the feelings in your body.
The way you learn to handle your feelings is, first, by learning all the tricks to “manage” them with mindfulness and will power. You can learn and practice those on your own all day, every day.
Attachment based therapy is a fancy way to say that the therapy you are doing is based on the premise that the way you were brought up affects the way you behave today.
The reason therapy should involve your body is because you want results. In order to get results that last, you need to feel. In order to feel, you have to involve your body.
Believe it or not, all your relationship problems can be boiled down into one simple explanation. Either you are expecting your partner to give you something that they are unwilling or unable to give you, that you may or may not know you are asking for, or they are doing the same to you, or both.