2 Reasons Why Happiness Is So Elusive For Most People

If you want to know why happiness is so elusive, I have some good news. Contrary to what you might believe:

Happiness is not really all that elusive.

But, it’s like anything in life. If it’s not innate, or someone else didn’t give it to you, you’re going to have to work for it.

Which is the tricky part, because we don’t like to work for things we think we deserve.

And, deep down, we know we deserve to be happy.

It just makes sense that we shouldn’t have to struggle emotionally most of the time. It’s logical to assume that unless something bad is happening to us at a particular moment, then we should experience an overall sense of peace in our minds and bodies.

Why then, should you have to work for happiness?

Well, you shouldn’t have to work for it. But, if you’re not happy, the reality is, life has handed you lemons. And you are going to have to do the work to make lemonade. No one else is going to do it for you.

I know, that’s a hard message to hear. But the reality is this:

There was a time, early in your life, when someone could have taught you the foundational elements of happiness. That time has passed and those people failed. Now, what you can, and should do, is mourn that time’s passing and express your rightful feelings of indignation towards those people who failed you. In private, of course. And not directly to them.

And then, you can, and should, get to work giving yourself the knowledge and experiences you need in order to live with the lasting feeling of emotional satisfaction, peace of mind, and overall contentment that you know you deserve.

Here is what’s ACTUALLY elusive:

  1. Finding the will to spend the time and money to give yourself something now that you know should have come to you for free a long time ago.
  2. Making the effort to provide yourself something that should have been part of the skill set instilled in you from birth, but wasn’t.

The unfortunate reality is that most people are blind to this phenomenon. Their need for someone else to give them what they know they deserved for free at one time is too strong. They simply complain and fail to take consistent action to reach their goal

You CAN be happy.

And feel emotionally satisfied and live with an overall sense of contentment and peace of mind. The question you have to ask yourself is, do I want it badly enough to COMMIT to the work?

Want to know more?

Download the introduction to my book, Emotional Utopia: Stop Searching for Happiness and Start Living It.

Or call me now. We’ll talk and I’ll teach you how.

Emotional Utopia, the book by Leah Benson, LMHC

Contact me now to set up your free 15-minute phone consultation.

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