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Yes, children are annoying. They whine, they cry, they break stuff, they hassle you. You can't get rid of them. They treat you like you're their slave and they don't appreciate anything you do. A famous psychologist from the old days, D.W. Winnicott, even wrote a...

I can't tell you how many times I've heard from people that a therapy relationship is not a real relationship.  It's a pretty universal assumption.  To be honest, during a large part of my own therapy, I thought the same thing. My reactions to you can't...

When therapy doesn't work, it's because you are talking about your feelings or talking about events that happened in the past, you aren't feeling them.  Talking and insight alone have no magical qualities.  In order to experience a change in the way you feel in...

The way you learn to handle your feelings is, first, by learning all the tricks to “manage” them with mindfulness and will power.  You can learn and practice those on your own all day, every day.  Try any self-help book or Google it.  When those...

Attachment based therapy is a fancy way to say that the therapy you are doing is based on the premise that the way you were brought up affects the way you behave today. As I mentioned in my blog, What's Your Attachment Style, your interpersonal style...

The reason therapy should involve your body is because you want results.  In order to get results that last, you need to feel.  In order to feel, you have to involve your body. It's not that therapists want you to have “the feels” just for the...

Believe it or not, all your relationship problems can be boiled down into one simple explanation.  Either you are expecting your partner to give you something that they are unwilling or unable to give you, that you may or may not know you are asking...

Successful people go to psychotherapy because they know that if they invest in themselves, they will be more effective at what they do, enjoy themselves more, and have more satisfying relationships with the important people in their lives. Psychotherapy is not only for people who have suffered...

Believe it or not, the way your parents interacted with you created your interpersonal style. In fact, it created your entire way of interacting with the world. You now have an “attachment style,” that came directly from your early relationships. The science is clear, and...

When you think, “trauma,” I bet you picture the emergency room in a hospital.  Head injuries, blood, stuff like that.  While that is definitely trauma, it's not what we mean in the therapy world. Generally speaking, mental health people speak of two types of trauma nowadays. ...